Discover The Secrets To Turning Platonic Friendships Into Passionate Love Affairs
Since the dawn of man guys have struggled to turn Platonic friendships into sex laden love affairs.
Let’s take a small peek at a few of the ways this plight rears its ugly head…
Scenario # 1: Boy befriends girl and they quickly become BFFs (best friends for life). He may have seen her as a boneable mate before they were buddies. Or maybe it happened after they formed an inseparable bond. Nonetheless, she puts the jumbo in his mojo.
But when it comes to making a move on her, he’s stunned and helpless like a fly caught between a swatter and a wall.
Know why?
He’s already established a nonsexual relationship with her. He might be a man. He might have a penis.
But to her he’s no different from a girlfriend - or even worse, a eunuch. She feels free to yap away about her boy problems without an iota of need to reciprocate the favor – especially in a sexual way.
She never explicitly tells him, “I feel no sexual attraction for you. I’d hop in the sack with your 80 year old grand daddy way before I’d consider touching you, buster.”
But he suspects it. He worries that by revealing his undying love for her, he risks rejection or worse, her NEVER wanting to see him again.
He wants to tell her how he feels but…
…his paralyzed tongue, hiding behind an Adam’s apple bobbing with each nerve racking swallow, can’t utter the words.
Scenario # 2:
Average Joe is friends with a girl. But unlike in the first example, he musters up enough courage to either make a move or confess his feelings for her.
Yet to his chagrin she cripples him with the words, “I thought we were just friends. You’re like my little brother… ew gross.”
Scenario # 3: Guy meets girl. Unlike scenario # 3, he isn’t friends with her. She’s just a girl he likes.
He works like a mule trying to impress her: from telling her funny jokes he found on the internet to spouting prepared conversation pieces he spent hours memorizing to mapping out interesting places to take her to spending gobs of money on fancy dinners… and so on.
Eventually he goes in for the kiss and she chirps, “I don’t like you in that way. But I think your friend Tom is hot. Can you do me a favor and tell him that I think he’s really cute?”
Scenario # 4: Guy has a sexually-charged, flirtatious interaction with a drop-dead gorgeous babe. He thinks to himself, “Ca-ching! I’m about to enter pink paradise.”
He goes for the jugular by leaning in to kiss her. But to his dismay she pushes him away and explains: Whoa… slow down there, turbo… I’m in a committed relationship with someone I really love… If I was single I’d kiss you in a heartbeat but I’m taken – sorry! We can be friends, though.”
I could continue this parade of single guy misery ad infinitum.
But my point is: Most men have experienced something strikingly similar to at least one of these scenarios.
As for myself…
I’ve had a front row seat at all four plus a dozen or so variations.
Perhaps you’ve been in a few of these scenarios as well. Yeah?
Interestingly…
All of these scenarios share a few qualities.
Can you guess what they are?
The first one is: In each scenario the girl thinks you want her.
Let’s up the ante…
In almost every male-female friendship the girl believes the guy wants her. “If he doesn’t want me now,” she thinks, “he’s bound to sprout a dick and grow some balls. At which point he’ll feel a yen to get into my pants.”
The few exceptions are: Father-daughter relationships (unless it’s incestuous), being gay, and something I’ll tell you about a little later on.
The second is: An “asexual friends” barrier between the guy and the girl. Your interaction with her might be sexually-charged. But this boundary still stops you from having sex with her.
I’m going to teach you step-by-step secrets for scudding past this boundary.
But before I do, I want to give you the inner game tools for getting past this boundary.
Warning: If you can’t keep what’s going on inside your head at bay, you’ll render the secrets you’re about to learn futile. You might as well toss them into a dumpster.
Put in plain English, heed close attention to what you’re about to read. This is very subtle yet power (in fact, you might want to read it three or four times).
Are these barriers just a case of our imagination playing a bad joke on us or do women really put up barriers?
Women really put up barriers, my friend.
Heaps of possible factors may cause a woman to erect the “friends into lovers” barrier: Your looks, height, age, and social status… her being in a committed relationship or having other love interests… and about a billion other things.
Regardless, you can always break a barrier down.
There’s a viable evolutionary explanation for why it is crucial that you break down a woman’s “friends into lovers” barrier.
Did you know that women’s vaginal fluid actually kills sperm? This guarantees that only the strongest sperm fertilizes the egg.
Likewise, some attractive women have so many men interested in them that they use barriers to weed out the weak links. (Perhaps, if they slept with every guy wanting to get his grimy little paws in their pants, their vaginas would look like the Grand Canyon.)
When you succumb to a woman’s “friends into lovers” barrier, she perceives you as a weak link – bad thing!! Not attractive in the least bit.
You might be wondering: How the hell do I leap over the “friends into lovers” barrier?
A big part of what prevents guys from getting past this barrier is all the junk going on inside their heads.
Just like an electric fence designed to stop a dog from breaking out, many guys feel a shock when getting too close to the “friends into lovers” barrier.
It may come in the form of a queasy stomach, a pounding heart, or something else.
Nonetheless, it’s strong enough to prevent them from escaping “friends” zone and entering “lovers” zone.
So what’s the origin of these icky sensations?
You might think that it’s limiting beliefs. If you could only efface your limiting beliefs, you might think, that nasty shock would disappear.
But the lurid truth is: Even if you charred these limiting beliefs to cinders, that icky feeling would still prevent you from passing the “friends into lovers” barrier.
You might think: “That’s because I fell short of destroying all of my limiting beliefs. If I could only tap into my unconscious mind, I’d find the ones I missed, destroy them, and that nasty shock would vanish.
Let me save you the years of therapy…
Even if you found every one of your limiting beliefs – conscious, unconscious, or whatever label you’d like to attach to them – you still wouldn’t be able to get rid of that cancerous sensation.
Because…
Something more primitive than beliefs is causing you to feel that icky sensation and preventing you from getting past a woman’s “friends into lovers” barrier.
As children, adults taught us not to cross boundaries. If we did, we paid the consequence – from receiving a spanking or scolding to losing a privilege (such as, watching television or spending time with friends).
Once conditioned, we felt a monstrous shock whenever getting too close to a boundary – even if there weren’t any consequences for crossing it.
Thank God for this conditioning. If it didn’t exist, there might be billions of murderers and rapists roaming the streets.
Although this conditioned response leads to well calibrated adults, it prevents guys from knocking down the “friends into lovers” barrier.
On the flipside… many social deviants, men with a criminal past, and sociopaths easily barrel through the “friends into lovers” boundary.
Why?
Because they aren’t conditioned to feel an icky sensation when crossing another person’s boundaries.
The key to getting rid of this icky feeling is reconditioning. When a woman throws up the “friends into lovers” boundary, practice manifesting the behaviors you would have if the boundary wasn’t there.
Also… if you have any limiting beliefs, practice manifesting the behaviors you would have if they didn't exist as well.
The more you do this, the more you’ll weaken the conditioned response to feel that icky sensation when a woman hurls the “friends into lovers” boundary at you.
Okay let’s get into specific techniques and tactics for turning friends into lovers.
But before we do, let’s go over some basic rules for when a woman puts up a “friends into lovers” barrier…
Rule # 1: Sex comes before courtship: NEVER court her the way you’d court a girlfriend until you’ve had sex with her.
Rule # 2: Do not beg or demand her to be your girlfriend.
Rule # 3: Do not tell her how much you like her.
When you break these rules, she can feel your needy and desperate energy pressuring her into a relationship. Do this and she’ll make you disappear as fast as a turd being flushed down the toilet.
Instead… the proper way to move past the barrier is to agree with her that you guys should just be friends.
Better yet, one-up her. If she says, “We should just be friends,” rebut with, “Yeah… I couldn’t agree more. You and I would make a terrible couple.”
But… here comes the scary part… gulp… put the moves on her: kiss, fondle, whatever. Just do it.
Here’s a dirty little secret about women… under the right conditions they’d sleep with most of their male friends… male friends they would NOT get into a dating relationship with.
Plus… once you’ve slept with a woman, she’s much more open to dating you.
Most guys’ map for courtship looks like this: Dating ==> More Dating ==> More Dating ==> Sex
If you want a relationship with a woman yet she puts up the “friends into lovers” barrier, you need to follow this map: Sex ==> More Sex ==> More Sex ==> Dating
Here’s another secret about beautiful women… They don’t freak out when you make a move on them.
Girls are used to their guy friends trying to hook up with them.
Sometimes when the guy has no feelings for the girl yet makes a move on her she’s ready to hop in the sack with him. Because he has little feelings for her, she feels free to have low-stress, no-strings-attached sex.
Now for the good stuff. I’m going to share with you an extremely powerful yet insidious technique for breaking down the “friends into lovers” barrier.
This technique is so evil I contemplated NOT sharing it in this letter.
But then I thought: If you had a technique that knocked down this barrier 99% of the time, you’d see how easy it is to move past this barrier.
So here it is…. Enjoy!!
As soon as you notice the “friends into lovers” barrier up, establish physical contact. You want to make sure she’s comfortable with you touching her. Keep the contact nonsexual: hugging, walking together with arms interlocked, holding hands… and so on.
Then say to her… “There’s something I want to tell you. But I’m not sure I should because I don’t want hurt your feelings. I’m not sure you can handle the answer.”
Inevitably the girl will demand, “Tell me… tell me!!”
Retort with, “Okay… but you have to promise that you won’t get mad.”
They’ll always promise because they are so curious to find out what you’re talking about.
Then say… “You know sweetie, you are really cool… you have great energy… and I like hanging out with you… but there’s a part of you that’s really closed, that doesn’t let people inside. And sometimes it can prevent you from connecting with others on a deeper level and make you feel alone.”
Important note: I usually only say this if I really believe it’s true about the woman. However, even if you don’t think it is true, it will work. Why? Because there’s a part of every woman that’s closed, doesn’t connect, and feels alone in the universe.
Next say, “There’s a simple solution to fixing this.”
She’ll say, “What? What?!”
Command, “Give me your hands.”
Once she gives you her hands, say, “Tell me when you start to feel uncomfortable.”
Start slowly moving in for the kiss.
When she chirps, “Now!!” respond with, “A big part of opening up to and connecting with friends, is learning to feel comfortable with them in your space.”
Make sure your eye contact is strong, and start moving in even closer.
As your lips start to graze hers, tell her, “We are just friends bonding. Don’t get any funny ideas and try to kiss me.”
Then ever so gently start rubbing your lips against hers – but not enough for her to object.
She’ll start getting aroused and kissing you back.
Respond with, “Ew… gross… you tried to kiss me. I though we were just friends.”
Then pull her in and say, “This time, no kissing. Just friendship bonding, okay?”
Next… start softly grazing your lips against hers. Now she’s exponentially turned on. She’ll start kissing you. Gently kiss her back.
Voila, my friend, you’ve destroyed the “friends into lovers” barrier.
There are many psychological mechanisms at work here. Many of which pull unconscious triggers biologically hardwired into a woman’s brain that compel her to go in the exact sexual direction you desire.
I’ve put together a course called Sexual Connections where I teach you step-by-step how to pull every one of these unconscious triggers.
Once you’ve mastered these unconscious triggers, you’ll be able to come up with your own strategies for turning friends into lovers that are even more powerful than the example above.
The best part is…
These unconscious triggers work beneath her critical factor. Put in plain English… looks, money, and social status become irrelevant with these skills.
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