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Hey Guys,
A while back someone emailed me a great success
story. I saved it on my computer and forgot
about it. Last week I was going through my
computer and found it. I thought, "Wow! - this
is a really great story," and was planning on
using it in my last newsletter. But, then, as I
was reading through it, I thought to myself,
"there is so much good stuff going on here, I
could do a whole newsletter on it." And that's
exactly what I'm doing. Enjoy!
"Hey Swinggcat! There once was a time when I
would walk into a bar, look at all the beautiful
women having fun with guys who were NOT me, and
get depressed. So I'd start drinking, and that
would only make me more depressed. Eventually
I'd go home alone, hating the world, hating
women, and most of all, hating myself for not
even TRYING to have fun.
Bars and clubs can be an intimidating
environment. Until recently, it wasn't in my
reality to believe that I could actually make
out with a girl in either location. Sure, I'd
seen guys do it before, but to think that *I*
could was just beyond any logical reasoning
my mind could grasp.
But in reading through Swinggcat's book, there
was a chapter that really stuck out at me. That
was the chapter on FRAMES. As Swinggcat defines
it, a frame determines the underlying meaning of
behaviors and actions.
I've found this is a *key* concept in
understanding any interaction with women.
When you enter a situation you may feel
uncomfortable with, the natural inclination is
to be overwhelmed by the FRAME your environment
presents. If you allow this to happen, you
effectively give up any control over your
behaviors and actions. This is the worst
possible thing you can do if you are hoping to
meet the girl of your dreams. Controlling your
FRAME, and setting the right FRAME, as opposed
to adopting the FRAMES presented to you, is the
most powerful tool there is in getting a woman.
Allow me to demonstrate what I mean.
I was recently in a very trendy club in
Los Angeles. It was the kind with some low
level celebrities, some incredibly beautiful
women, some incredibly rich men, sexy go-go
dancers swinging around on poles, trendy techno
music, and tastefully pornographic movies
projected on the walls. In short: IT WAS THE
MOST INTIMIDATING ENVIRONMENT KNOWN TO MAN!
So there I am, a guy who's about 50 lbs.
overweight, who's bald, and who makes $30 Grand
a year, hob-knobbing with models and porno
stars. And wouldn't you know it, the same
feeling I got when I went to a bar in the past
began to creep up on me. But because I
was able to understand the concept of
controlling my FRAME, I was able to do
something amazing.
I set the frame that I'm having a good time,
that all the girls in the club liked me, and
that I was going to have fun with them.
Before long, I found myself in a conversation
with a beautiful girl who is a model. In fact,
she told me she's going to be on the next
season of "America's Next Top Model."
Because I approached her with a strong frame
of having fun and that I was the PRIZE, she
was very responsive to me. She eventually got
dragged away by some friends (as is apt to
happen in clubs). But later on, I saw her
talking to a group of guys who were obviously
trying to hit on her.
But because my frame was so strong, I walked up
to the group, took her by the hand, and
literally LEAD her onto the dance floor, away
from all the moes she was talking to, who
watched in stunned silence and a poor, bald,
fat guy grinded away with this amazing girl in
front of them. And not only that - SHE WAS
INTO IT!
So there I am, body pressed up against this
girl, having the best time in the world, and I
think to myself "I should make out with
her!"
So I did. I grabbed her and planted one right
on her lips. And not only did she react well,
but she reciprocated! Before long, our tongues
were in a fencing match with each other, and I
was the envy of about 78% of the club. It was
a reality shattering experience for me, because
until that point, the only place I'd ever made
out with a girl was either in my car or in
the bedroom after about 3 or 4 dates.
So what was different? The answer: My Frame!
I set the frame where I was the PRIZE, where she
was trying to win ME over, andwhere she wants
me so bad that she WANTED to make-out with me.
And because I set the strong frame, the model I
was with WENT ALONG WITH IT! Now, I can now go
into a club without that sinking feeling of
depression dragging me down, because I know it
is possible to not only have fun, but to meet
any girl I want and make-out with her! You
just gotta have the right frame.
Thanks Swinggcat!"
- M from Pasadena
My response:
Damn! - talk about a geek to sheik story. This
guy went from "classified gimp" to "certified
pimp." What was is it that allowed him to do
this? The sole enabling factor was this: He
understood the power of ESTABLISHING himself as
the PRIZE when interacting with women. In my
book I call this PRIZABILITY.
As those of you who have been following my
newsletters and have read my book know:
ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers.
ATTRACTION is creating the emotion inside a
woman of wanting, reaching for more of you.
The art of creating this emotion inside
women is what call PRIZING.
You cannot, however, create the emotion in a
woman of her wanting and reaching for more of
you if she does not perceive you as being
the PRIZE. Put in other words, before you can
ATTRACT her, you need to set the groundwork
that you are the PRIZE. You can't make a
woman want more of you if she does not view
you as having any perceived value.
Even having good looks and lots of money, in and
of themselves, doesn't necessarily suffice in
establishing that you are the PRIZE
with women.
A more efficient way of ESTABLISHING yourself
as the PRIZE is through developing specific
social skills. Learning to, for example, tell
stories, cold read, be intriguing, develop
your sense of humor...and so on. I do all of these
things, and, in fact, I teach them in my book.
http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/
The most powerful way, however, to establish
PRIZABILITY is to ALWAYS define the underlying
meaning of your interactions with women as you
being the one who is the PRIZE. In my book I
call this the META-FRAME.
In fact, all of the other methods for
establishing PRIZABILITY - such as, telling
stories, cold reading, being intriguing, saying
something funny...and so on - only work in
conjunction with you defining the META-FRAME
as you being the PRIZE.
If you are doing a bunch of things to try to
ESTABLISH your PRIZABILITY with a woman - such
as, story telling and acting funny - but you are
not defining the underlying meaning of your
interaction with her as you being the one who is
the PRIZE, you will, unknowingly, establish
negative PRIZABILITY.
Put in other words, doing or saying things to
increase your PRIZABILTY within the context - or
META-FRAME - of you not being the PRIZE will
inevitably make you look needy, pathetic, and
desperate.
Before learning anything else about dating or
ATTRACTING women, you need to know how to
ESTABLISH the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE
in the interaction. Even if you have all of the
social skills in the world, without knowing how
to set the META-FRAME your skills are worthless
when comes to ATTRACTING women. If you do not yet
have a handle on this, you need to read my book:
http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/
When you are fat, bald, and broke, like M from
Pasadena, a woman's default assumption is
probably going to be that you are not the
PRIZE. To make matters worse, your default
assumption about yourself might be that you
aren't the PRIZE.
As M from Pasadena tells us: "When you enter a
situation you may feel uncomfortable with, the
natural inclination is to be overwhelmed by the
FRAME your environment presents. If you allow
this to happen, you effectively give up any
control over your behaviors and actions. This
is the worst possible thing you can do
if you are hoping to meet the girl of your
dreams. Controlling your FRAME, and setting the
right FRAME, as opposed to adopting the FRAMES
presented to you, is the most powerful tool
there is in getting a woman."
M refuses to allow society, his environment, and
the people he is around to dictate his FRAME and
META-FRAME.
Just doing this can establish PRIZABILITY because
it conveys to women that you are in control of
your power, have a strong sense of self, and have
an unswayable REALITY. These are all qualities
women find PRIZABLE in men.
M continues: "I set the frame where I was the
PRIZE, where she was trying to win ME over, and
where she wants me so bad that she WANTED to
make-out with me. And because I set the strong
frame, the model I was with WENT ALONG WITH IT!
Now, I can now go into a club without that
sinking feeling of depression dragging me down,
because I know it is possible to not only have
fun, but to meet any girl I want and make-out
with her! You just gotta have the right
frame."
Let's remember, he didn't play tonsil hockey with
just any girl, he did it with a woman who is going
to be on the next season of "America's Next Top
Model." And he was able to do this in spite of
being fat, bald, and broke - all because he
established the META-FRAME that he is the PRIZE.
When you ASSUME that you have perceived value,
and KNOW how to establish the META-FRAME that
you are the PRIZE, women will see you as a PRIZE
they want to win over - and it doesn't matter if
you're fat, or bald or broke...or whatever. If,
however, you are good looking and rich yet do not
have the skill set for establishing the
META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE, your success
with women will be mediocre at best. That's how
important the META-FRAME is. With some guys, it
almost seems like they were born with it. Not me.
I had to learn how to establish the META-FRAME
through a lot of experimenting and hard work. If
you want to save yourself truck loads of time,
start learning to establish the META-FRAME with
every woman you interact with by downloading my
book today. Just think what it will be like to
finally have the skills and confidence to plop
your butt in the driver's seat while interacting
with women, giving you the power and choice to
take your interactions with them in the direction
you want. My book is the only place you can
learn this information. Start getting this area
of your life taken care of right now by
downloading my book.
http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
"Dr. of Attraction"
P.S., If you have a success story you would
like to share, or a question you would like
to ask, or a comment you would like to make,
please email me at:
swinggcat@realworldseduction
Include the fist initial of your first and
last name. And include the country,
state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways,
you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit
"reply" to this email, because I won't get
it!
Thanks!
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