How To Make Women Think Other Women Want You
Many a man falling a few hundred feet short of possessing "conventional" good looks has sparked sexual tension in beautiful women.
But these women didn't necessarily feel an iota of attraction for these guys.
In fact...
Most guys - even male models - have the experience of triggering sexual tension in women yet failing to create attraction. (If you cannot create sexual tension in the women you desire, click here.)
You ever experience this before? I certainly have. You’re bantering with a woman. You know she’s feeling the tension – and diggin’ it. But she’s not quite attracted to you. Something is missing.
A precondition for creating attraction in women is what I call Prizability.
Prizability is having enough value in a woman's eyes that if you walked away from her or didn't validate her, she'd take it as a loss.
For some women, the sight of a bald, fat man transforms what’s between their legs into a super soaker.
However, these same women perceive characteristics like "large stature," "muscular physique," and "a full head of hair" as more Prizable than "short," "bald," and "fat."
That's because what women see as Prizable is usually defined by social proof... how valuable they think others perceive something as being.
For example... A girl might think some guy is about as appealing as a saucer of goat cum.
But if her friends see him as a Prize, she'll start seeing him as a Prize as well.
"Shouldn't women just open their legs for whatever turns them on? Isn't this whole Prizability thing superficial?"
Maybe so... but it's damn important to women.
Just take a look at online dating profiles.
Most beautiful women request only tall, dark and handsome men with high paying jobs reply (and some women sporting bodies the size of a mini mart have an even more grisly "man quota").
If you feel nature short changed you. If you think the elephant man would trounce you in a beauty contest. Don't worry. There's hope. I promise.
Imagine a woman looking at a photo of two guys: one's tall, dark, and handsome; the other, four foot eleven, balder than Mr. Clean (if that’s possible), and 100 lb. overweight.
Obviously she's gonna see the first one as having more Prizability.
But let's change one variable...
The second guy is surrounded by beautiful women while the first guy is alone.
Chances are… she's going to see the second guy as having higher Prizability than the first.
Why?
Because of a psychological trigger hardwired into a woman’s brain called “social proof.”
Whenever other attractive women want or like a guy, she perceives that guy as having more Prizability – and most likely will start wanting him as well.
Maybe she’s one of those fuck-the-system, think-for-yourself kinda gals who believes she’s impenetrable to peer pressure?
Doesn’t matter. Most of the time social proof operates outside of conscious control.
Here are two ideas that might have popped into your head...
1). Showing a woman a photo album of you with other girls within the first five minutes of meeting her.
2). Hitting the nightlife with a harem of women in tow.
3). Make every girl at the bar swoon over you before approaching the girl you want.
The first idea might work. But personally, I think it can come across as a little - actually a lot - needy.
The second idea can work big time. In fact, I've used it before. The problem is... this only works if you have a network of females wanting to be your wing women.
Third idea: Another one I've used. Similar to number two, it works like a charm. Alas, you need some uber game to pull this one off. For most guys, this is just out of the cards.
But there's an alternative that's just as - if not more - powerful...
Built into the structure of male-female interactions is a Meta Frame. Think underlying meaning or subtext.
The Meta Frame defines one person as the Prize; the other, as the one trying to win the Prize over.
(If you've heard me talk about the Meta-Frame before, keep reading. In a minute, I'm going to share a crucial piece of the story you probably have NEVER heard about.)
I should warn you... this underlying meaning is not internal but external.
In other words, just believing you're the Prize, doesn't make you the Prize (though, as you'll see later, it can help).
Instead, your words and behaviors attempt to set the Meta-Frame and her reaction determines if she buys into the Meta-Frame… or vice-versa.
Socialized women have a know-how yet usually unconscious understanding of men’s behaviors, actions, and reactions to them.
That's why this whole frame game often happens below conscious awareness.
Let's look at an example...
Imagine a guy strolls up to a woman and spits his best lines at her and she rebuts with, "Sweetie... I don't mean to be rude, but I only date wealthy men," and then turns her head the other way.
He attempts to save his self esteem from drowning in a suicidal gloom by telling her, "You have NO idea how much money I make. I drive a brand new Lamborghini and live in a mansion."
He might consciously think to himself, "What a dumb bitch. I'm better than her. And she'll never get a guy as rich as me. She's trash."
But unconsciously he’s fallen into her meta-frame.
She attempted to set the meta-frame that she's the Prize he's trying to win over when she said, "Sweetie... I don't mean to be rude, but I only date wealthy men."
By him qualifying to her about his money, he submitted to her frame.
In his gut, he knows it. But he's come up with a backwards rationalization about what happened. He might consciously think he really put her in her place.
But unconsciously he and the woman agree that she's the Prize and he's a groveling bitch trying to win her over.
For years, I've been teaching guys how to establish themselves as the Prize while interacting with women. Why? Because it's brought me and thousands of my students heaps of success with women.
But...
Every so often, I get an email from a guy saying, "Swinggcat, I tried setting the Meta-Frame that I'm the Prize but the girl turned into a rhymes-with-witch and walked away."
Here's what happened... and this is something I haven't shared with most of you... so keeping reading…
When you set the Meta-Frame that you’re the Prize, be on the lookout for congruency tests. Tests to see if you’re congruent with being the Prize.
Why do women test?
Some women are skeptical of every man they meet being the Prize. Thus, they congruency test all males.
Sometimes our attempt to set the Meta-Frame as the Prize isn’t congruent... and women pick up on that. Maybe we're a little nervous or unsure of ourselves.
Another thing that motivates a woman to test is when a man tries to establish himself as the prize yet doesn’t have the characteristics she associates with high value.
Passing this test has to do with social proofing yourself to the girl but probably not in any way you're of.
A few weeks ago I was with a buddy of mine in Hollywood California at a popular nightclub.
He approached these two girls and they immediately gave him attitude. One of the girls looked at him and said, "Ew... uh... we're about to go get drink in 30 seconds."
So I attempted to set the Meta-Frame with, "Look... we hardly even know you guys and you're already trying to buy us drinks, so you can get us drunk and take advantage... how rude!"
She congruency tested me with, "You really think you're all that. I'm getting a drink, bye."
I respond with, "You starting shit punk?! Put up your dukes." Then I put up my hands like I was ready to fight her and cracked a smile.
She started giggling. I spun her around. Hugged her. Tickled her. Pushed her away… and so on. She was in my Meta-Frame. I was the Prize.
Quick break down of what happened...
I attempted to pull the girl into my frame. She congruency tested me.
I didn’t get scared, think I disrespected her, grovel, or apologize.
Doing these things would have pushed me into her Meta-Frame. Even worse, she’d have inferred that I’m not desired by other women.
Women view your beliefs, behaviors, and reactions to them as a history lesson on how past women have treated you.
My reaction to her congruency test was almost not a reaction at all. Instead of getting angry, emotionally upset, or proving myself to her, I interpreted her congruency test as her joking around with me. And I playfully joked back.
By not emotionally reacting to her, I communicated to her this… Because I’m accustomed to women treating me as the Prize, I’m incapable of processing anything to the contrary.
As result… Not only did she end up in my Meta-Frame but believed many women perceive me as a Prize they wanted to win over.
Because she’s hardwired to want and like what others want and like, she viewed me as a Prize she wanted to win over.
In this article I introduced to you one of many many ways to use the Meta-Frame.
For example… there are ways to use the Meta-Frame that tap into heaps of other triggers in a woman’s brain that give you the power to unconsciously marshal her thoughts and behaviors in the direction you choose.
Using these techniques are so effective it looks like voodoo to the untrained eye.
But the reality is… it is just simple science.
I always laugh when guys look over at me and whisper amongst their friends: He’s got that girl in a spell. That’s magical.
There’s nothing mystical about it. Just plain old fashion psychology.
But they probably will NEVER figure this stuff out because they aren’t as insane as me. I spent years interacting with thousands of women to discover these secrets.
Because so few men are as crazy as me, only a fraction of a fraction of the male population knows about these secrets.
But…
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